I sincerely feel that building confidence in a child is far more beneficial and far less costly than trying to fix an adult who has little or none.
~Brenda Silveira (October 2011)
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|IS YOUR LIFE FULL OF HAPPINESS?|
ARE YOU SUCCESSFUL?
ARE YOU CONFIDENT?
DO YOU HAVE GOOD SELF-ESTEEM?
If you answered 'no' to any of these questions, don't feel bad, you certainly aren't the only one who feels like this. Most people want to be happy and successful in life, but many fail because they lack confidence and have little or no self-esteem.
As children, we have dreams of becoming a doctor, lawyer, astronaut, fireman or something else we believe is important. Then we hear and see things that take away our dreams and make us feel inferior. "You're stupid." "You can't do that." "You're a failure." "What a loser."
Do any of these statements sound familiar? Growing up, most of us have heard these words spoken to us or about us. These are just a few of those negative statements that tear down our esteem and create insecurities.
Depending on our environment, these statements often continue on in to our teens, adulthood and right into our senior years.
Where is the encouragement? How many times do we hear statements like these? "Good job!" "You tried your best!" "You have talent!" "I'm proud of you." We don't seem to hear as many of these positive statements and these are CRITICAL to becoming a confident adult with strong esteem.
Growing up and living in a mainly positive environment teaches us good habits. Our parents and peers make us feel loved, wanted and appreciated; which helps us build confidence and increases self-esteem. We grow into responsible, reliable, caring adults who are able to face daily challenges and deal with them effectively.
Growing up and living in a mainly negative environment teaches us bad habits. Our parents and peers make us feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated; which helps destroy our confidence and decreases our self-esteem. We grow into untrusting, fearful, insecure adults who can't face daily challenges and deal with things badly.
The good thing is, we can all change. It doesn't matter what environment you grew up in, how people have treated you, how old you are, or how you are feeling right now. You are YOUR OWN WORST ENEMY but you can become YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. YOU are the ONLY one who can change your life.
Negativity CAN be changed into positivity. Bad habits CAN be changed into good habits.
You CAN become more confident and you CAN have better self-esteem. It takes 2 things - desire and commitment. First you have to really want to make positive changes and have a better life, then you have to commit to actively, continually, every day, all the time, day after day working on making positive changes until they become habit. It takes about 21 CONTINUOUS days to set a new habit. If you miss a day or two, don't get discouraged, you might have slipped back a bit, but you haven't lost all your hard work, just keep going.
Change is NOT easy, NOT quick and everyone won't have the same results in the same time period, but it is definitely worth your time and effort to create a better life. When you get impatient and don't see results fast enough, think about how long it took to create your situation and realize it will take time to make this situation better.
Just DON'T EVER GIVE UP, always KEEP TRYING!
Try to eliminate or decrease as much negativity as possible in your life. Work on building a positive environment and as you become more confident, your positivity will influence others.
ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU HAVE TALENTS AND YOU CAN SUCCEED!
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